So today at my workplace, something simmering for the last few months came to a head. Someone who had to do something with the simmering decided to consult a superior. Not that there is anything wrong with that.
The superior, Mr. S, duly pointed out that the whole thing was my fault. I do not agree, at least not completely.
But he might be right because I am an all round bad judge of people, situations, and of my and others' roles and responsibilities. Also, I completely adore the man as a professional and as a person and have no reasons to believe he said what he said without firmly believing it.
While discussing the matter, one of the things he mentioned was that Ms. So-And-So has probably been with the organisation since before I was born. I felt that this implied that I should not have taken the situation so far.
This logic does not feel right to me. Thinking of it, Adolf Hitler must be of the age of my great-grandmother, a lady I have never met. But this does not mean that I too should devise a Holocaust of my own. (Definitely not the best of examples here.)
What worries me is that I might have hurt and/or let down a few people, including but not limited to Mr. S and Ms. So-And-So. It is one thing to playfully tease your co-workers or to let things heat up on purpose, but having this happen when unintended is not right. Did I not mention I am more of a master of disaster?
I definitely need to be a bit more diplomatic and "positive".
The superior, Mr. S, duly pointed out that the whole thing was my fault. I do not agree, at least not completely.
But he might be right because I am an all round bad judge of people, situations, and of my and others' roles and responsibilities. Also, I completely adore the man as a professional and as a person and have no reasons to believe he said what he said without firmly believing it.
While discussing the matter, one of the things he mentioned was that Ms. So-And-So has probably been with the organisation since before I was born. I felt that this implied that I should not have taken the situation so far.
This logic does not feel right to me. Thinking of it, Adolf Hitler must be of the age of my great-grandmother, a lady I have never met. But this does not mean that I too should devise a Holocaust of my own. (Definitely not the best of examples here.)
What worries me is that I might have hurt and/or let down a few people, including but not limited to Mr. S and Ms. So-And-So. It is one thing to playfully tease your co-workers or to let things heat up on purpose, but having this happen when unintended is not right. Did I not mention I am more of a master of disaster?
I definitely need to be a bit more diplomatic and "positive".
A difficult situation indeed, KK. Diplomacy --as an art of reconciliation and concession-- would seem to be in order. Best of luck.
ReplyDeleteYes, I am learning the same. Hopefully at non-zero speed.
DeleteSee I'm not a diplomatic person at all. If I get confronted I go from nice to bitch in less than 2 seconds. Just because someone has more seniority than you doesn't mean that are automatically right.
ReplyDeleteYou are right. Also, now I know never to cross you.
DeleteKi hoya paaji.. tussi tan happiness di dose ho :)
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to say that in the workplace, diplomacy is often the best answer; even when you know you're right. However, if one never speaks one's mind, one would be permanently wishing one had! Take your choice.
ReplyDeleteI think it is about choosing the battles one has to fight and ignoring the rest.
DeleteI'm sorry to say that in the workplace, diplomacy is often the best answer; even when you know you're right. However, if one never speaks one's mind, one would be permanently wishing one had! Take your choice.
ReplyDeleteDiplomacy. This is saying with a smiling face to someone I don't give a shxt about what you are thinking. In a diplomatic language.
ReplyDeleteMy language and my tone are all right. But my friends tell me that when faced with crazy situations, aggression is apparent in my overall behavior. Let us hope I am able to deal with that.
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